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Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Let me remind you: Struggle for power is real! Although, some do as if they never wanted to be in power but a higher percentage really want to because of what comes with it. Look around and see what is happening even in our dear country, the chaos is always ignited by power.  Power is the ability to control or influence others. Frankly speaking, we have different views as human beings and would always want our opinions to supercede others. Any person in power would make you do what he or she has said whether you like it or not. Thirsting to be in power is nice but how about the motive? It's good everyone wants to have a say, power is influence. Someone that doesn't have any power over me cannot tell me to do something. Imagine an average Nigerian and the President of Nigeria at the same event. Who would get the most attention? Who would get the ultimate respect? We know the answer obviously. To be in power takes effort, to

Well, I believe we all know the brain stores what it sees faster than what it hears. I've said it once here and I'll say it again that appearance matters (maybe to me though). I sincerely do not know how young people especially ladies feel comfortable shabbily dressed and tell you it's like that since their partner is not around or they have no one looking at them. Eeeew! I used to know a very beautiful lady whom because of her boyfriend's insecurity, doesn't dress near good. I mean when I tried to talk to her, she said her boyfriend had warned her not to 'dress to kill' for other guys since he's not around. How on earth would someone be so mean? Like if you see the pictures of this boyfriend we're talking about, he's always dripping in designers. When you are told to spice up your appearance, it doesn't mean breaking a bank or being indecent. That's the mistake most ladies make and it's not nice. Just like me now, my pocket money can

As human beings, we are so much in a hurry for results. We want speed, for things to happen in a twinkle of an eye. We want to jump steps and just make things so snappy.  But life at times throws lemon at us, we don't often get what we want. That is the traffic congestion or hold up on our ways. This period of waiting is the period that makes us if you'll agree with me. Even with pressure pot, rice would have still stayed a couple of minute on the cooker before it gets done. Tell me, won't you be taken aback when you put rice on the fire and it gets done almost immediately? Maybe when technology reaches that stage though. Almost everyone has had to wait at a period in their life. Just this afternoon, I waited for several minutes at the borehole to get water. Everybody in my school at this time knows water is a great challenge. I shared the story of my admission into tertiary institution sometimes on this blog, I waited. Mheeen, it was an ugly experience. How something was s

This resolution of a thing sef, it's always somehow. Many of us pledge to do some things or even vow to stop some things at the beginning of a year but eventually we get incapacitated. How numerous resolution get discarded by February baffles me alot sha. Another worst thing about this is that some people even forget they made a resolution as regards a particular thing. They remember at the close of the year and promise themselves they would turn it over to the incoming year and the cycle goes on and on. Why do we find it hard to stick by our resolutions? According to Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary, resolution may mean : A strong will, determination. A statement of intent, a vow. Some people, after so many failed resolutions have given up, they want to go with the flow of ''anything goes.'' The idea isn't that bad, it is however good when we map out how we want the new year to be. Whether to inculcate new things or thrash stuff that ain't ideal. Do

Insecurity!!! This alone ruins a marriage of so many years, especially when the ego of the man is being tampered with. Insecurity comes in different forms. In a relationship, a man may feel insecure when his wife earns more than he. A woman may feel insecure when her husband is quite attractive or maybe used to be a casanova before they got married. And generally, insecurity between a husband and a wife could be as a result of growing up and hurtful past relationship experiences. In friendship, a friend may feel insecure when the other seems to be doing well. An insecure person could be very difficult to deal with. The moment they see you're doing better than they are, that is where problem and enmity sets in. Let me go on, insecure people talk you out of reaching heights because it threatens them. They start thinking by the time you're on a higher level than they, you may decide to leave. When I read ''Reflecns of A Man'' by Amari Soul, I had a clearer understa

 I wonder why people are so used to nailing you to what you were once known for even after knowing you've moved. There's this elderly friend of mine. He was a panelist in a finance workshop. He asked if I could make it to the event that day and I replied in the affirmative. The discussion was really an eye-opener for me and I commended him immediately after the session. Just as I was still standing by him, a man whom he described as one of his friends in the college came over and said ''if it had been someone else talking, I might have agreed, when did you become so serious about money of a thing, you used to be so extravagant at spending.'' My friend didn't take offence at the rude remark, he just smiled at him and said ''thank God you said I used to, not anymore'' The man went away shaking his head in utter disbelief. Well, I entered into his thoughts and I realized he was thinking that someone that had such prodigal nature shouldn't ad

They knew we know the truth but they still tell us the truth we know is a lie. Who are they? Nigerian government apparently. CNN released video of what transpired at the Lekki tollgate on October 20, 2020 and it was denied by our able Minister of Information, Mr Lai. I'll say well done sir! It was denied ahbi, the denial of the masaccre should have followed a video of what they called the truth about the incidence. I was expecting a shocking revelation of protesters at the toll gate who were just singing national anthem and waving the flag all through but I couldn't find it. I was expecting a total denial of DJ switch's Instagram live video that it was probably at a movie location or thereabout. I was expecting the federal government to say those visited at the hospital by the Lagos state governor, Babajide Sanwoolu were victim of landslide and not the Lekki tollgate shootings. Yea, maybe I should add this too. I was also expecting them to say the officers of the Nigerian A

  ''Maybe it would have  been better if students go and learn skills.'' ''The schools should rather be closed for two to five years in order to resuscitate the education sector'' Well, these and many more are the statements that have been pissing me off since the beginning of the dialogue between ASUU and the Federal Government. Gradually, 2020 is almost over and students in Nigeria universities are yet to know their resumption fate. I could remember vividly that the strike was ongoing before the lockdown was declared. It's a pity a course of study with 4 years duration turns out to be 5 or even 6 years. How did we get here? A student would actually be happy when he or she is offered a provisional admission and start calculating how many years to go but like the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria would say ''I was shocked'' the calculated duration gets longer and longer.  Nigeria educational system is actually wrecking every

  I was sitting on the bed in my room staring at the note of the exam paper I have the next day.  Loud thoughts, do we need exams? Are they true test of knowledge? Our answers might contradict but nonetheless, we still need to be tested. Like I was saying o. Well, my room is a typical example of some student's room without a chair and a reading desk. Obviously, when you come visiting, you'll be sitting on my bed if you don't mind. Lol It wasn't a course I really fancied so the note was kinda boring but you know I had to read it anyway. Getting good grades can be sweet o, chai! I was reading a line about a million times, yawning continuously, changing positions and at the end of it, I found myself lying flat. Sleep? Yea, I actually slept off while reading sha.  You obviously can relate right?  Maybe this can somewhat be targeted at students because I'm in that shoes at the moment too. Enjoy my tips😋 When you notice you're about dozing off while reading, walk aro

At a sensitive time such as this, some people are so much concerned with tribal conspiracy theory instead of fighting as Nigerians with one voice. The bad governance we are speaking against today does not only affect the Southerners, it's to every Nigerian home or away. It may not bother you as it does to me how we get to recycle the same people in governance. They come disguised as saviours on a different political platform whereas it's no different from the other and then we approve of them thinking they'll do better. Wow! See them shocking us one by one. Nigeria is sixty years old for crying out loud and yea, we should enjoy good lives as Nigerians. How annoying it is when I meet staunch followers of a particular leader and their level of reasoning still shows how blindfolded they are to see the obvious flaws. Like how can one out of hundred person keep saying that one leader is doing well when it's otherwise? Mehnnnn You mean to say the remaining ninety nine are sen

  Did I share my police harassment story with you? I guess I didn't  Well, as much as I always try to evade addressing the negative sides in the police force because of the people I have there, I won't hesitate to speak now. I posted something on my WhatsApp status on Sunday when I saw the news that SARS has been dissolved and the caption reads thus ''FG finally shenk SARS, our boyfriends are free now.'' The reaction of people really surprised me when some started questioning me to know whether I'm dating a yahoo boy. Some even went to the extent of accusing me of being a party to fraud. Lol, I was like ''what the feck!'' SARS do not only chase after yahoo boys, they harass you when you look too good to be true.  Okay wait, you saw the comedy skit of a guy who defined SARS? Dread, iPhone, laptop, chains, designer wears et cetera. How many is my body that SARS officer is stopping me? So it happened like this o, I took a bike from Sango to Iwo

Chai. Would you imagine yourself in this kind of situation where you pay a visit to someone's house, you were offered a meal but you declined politely because you didn't want to betray your stomach at that time. The people now responded with ''you don't want to eat because our food is not sweet ahbi.''  You don't even need to imagine that because I'm sure it must have happened to you several times if you're a Nigerian. Honestly speaking, you would want to dissuade them off that thought and you might even find yourself trying to explain the reason why you have declined the offer, maybe to say ''it's not like that ma'am, I'm fasting or I didn't mean to say No to your offer, I just ate a plate of rice on my way here not long ago'' and so on. Watch out! Those people might not know what they've done but that's a straightforward example of what a manipulative person does. You find yourself trying to ''sha

 ''Well, I really do not take alcohol but I don't want you to feel bad if I reject your offer, I'll take a bottle.'' ''I don't want the pastor to see me as a lazy youth, I would have to join the Sunday School department then.'' Gosh, like I don't get. Must you be so loyal to every person that you can't say NO to pressure? . . few of the lines above exemplifies how we sometimes react to situations cowardly. How often do you please people? Many times! Yes, many times! Let me make it plain enough: Any moment you bow completely to someone else's opinion or suggestion about you without questioning, you've fallen inside the people-pleaser trap. I must confess to you that I was a victim of this for quite a few number of years even though I pretend to be rebellious, I accept people's opinion of me hook, line and sinker. Those times ehn, when I see my friends or people I know going astray, I couldn't bring myself to correct the

On this day years back, someone collected the fine wrist watch he bought for me because I refused to kiss him at the bus stop. You think it's no big deal? well, it is to me. I guess he would probably be laughing at himself now if he comes across this. God knows as naive I was then, I wouldn't just do what I was told without knowing why. Like you don't get? Like why should I kiss you in public? Is it that you've struck a deal with someone watching telling the person I would probably succumb to doing that? Even if you had wanted that, why was it not indoor? Shey we are in America nih? Kiss o not even a peck or a hug? Well, I won't be particular about the kiss but I'm seriously concerned about removing the wrist watch that was gifted to me already. Gosh, I don't know if anyone enjoyed using 2go like I did because I met a quite number of people. Some, we are still cool, some have gone with the tides of life. Lol So, I met this guy in one of the 2go rooms and we

From every sleep that I'm privileged to wake up from, I've always being optimistic and look forward to seeing this distress to have disappeared. Expectations every morning, hunger and thirst for miracles. Quick desperation for intervention and millions of ways to see if there are any short cuts to achieve desired results of GOOD LIFE. This is obviously not the Nigeria of my dream if you would ask me. Anticipation for a better tomorrow has started before I was born and it's almost a mantra that I perceive would be sung by the forthcoming generation. Policies made by government at all levels are loosing their masses-centered relevance and they are just being made anyways. The stamp duty was recently implemented followed by a new tarrif on electricity and now hike in fuel price. All these however seem to be felt more by the average Nigerians. Yes, You and Me. I want to believe the fuel price hike is a prank that would be cautioned any moment soon. Our leaders are full of hypoc

The countdown has just begun. This is the only time we seem to be truly awakened that the days of the year doesn't stop counting. August folds up to usher in the Ember months. You hear people say ''oga o, this year is almost gone sha'' as if the year wasn't going before now. Doubled profit making is the goal for the latter part of the year as this.  (Singing) Ember ko ma ko wa l'ebi lo Ember ko ma ko wa n'ile lo Osu ''BER BER BER'' la de Baba l'oke so wa ninu ibanuje Ember ko ma ko wa n'ile lo The lines above simply translate ''God keep our homes and extended families safe during the Ember months.'' I can't say specifically who sang that song but It's been popular ever since I was young especially at this time of the year. Very soon, everyone will start singing this Good Women song too: ''Odun n lo s'opin o baba rere (the year is going to an end good Father) F'iso re so wa o t'omo t'

Yaaaay, it's a new week already. There's an unforgettable story I want to share with y'all today😉😉 Before then, I just wish I could have the kind of birthday I had while I was young that I would wake up to find my birthday present beside me. Days of Readymade gowns, shoes, Bible and other things. Why am I not getting this kind of special treat again sef? Oh, I think I need to tell you the plans I had for this year's birthday. To go on a yacht, to the beach, to go on a tour to Obudu hill or a waterfall or chill at a 5-star hotel or this and that. You know I just want to relax and be taken care of but I think its only Mercy BBN19 that can say that. Right now, it's only me that can take care of me ooo except I want to deceive myself. So, this past week was my birthday and I was really overwhelmed seeing my pictures flying everywhere on people's status but I'm looking forward to a celebrity kind of birthday where different vendors would bring in gifts for me l

I didn't steal it na I just picked your money Who doesn't like money??? Nobody would dare say he or she doesn't like money o, the likeness in people just differ. Some people don't only like, they love money sef.  As you're reading this now, imagine a credit alert of a whooping sum of money from a particular person you've texted your account details to centuries ago and just remembered you today when you've even even lost hope. You'll be so happy ehn😂 How I wish! You see money is nobody's enemy, the ecstacy it adds to one's life can't be compared. Being able to buy what you like at a particular time, being able to eat what you want, being able to flex and do alot of things. You know how wealthy these actors could be in movies, especially when they mention outrageous amount of money like it's that easy. For instance, when someone comes to one wannabe big man for help and he just collect the details of such person to wire like 5million nair

Matriculation picture of Lollycious after the whole disappointment saga Just before my birthday, I would like to share some bitter experiences I had while growing up that has shaped me into becoming the kind of person I am today. I'm sure you would love to hear😜😜 Just before I proceed, how have you been holding up at this time especially for people like me with no stable source of income?  Chai! Please be skilled o or better still be a serial entrepreneur, I mean Mr Jack of all trade with ''sense'' to avoid see finish. I hope you're optimistic about this second half of the year 2020? Please shun mediocrity and do the best you can towards being better. Now, let me ask you this. How do you feel when someone promised you a particular thing and then after waiting patiently for it, nothing was forthcoming? Bad, right? You feel as if the person isn't worth your respect again and so on. Or in a situation where you need that thing so badly and you're time boun

I was checking through my gallery recently and I found pictures of people I've not even come in contact with saved in different folders ranging from screenshot to received images to Facebook and twitter images and I was just smiling at myself. This is just like you would find the famous Korean actor in almost every ladies' phone, I mean Lee Min Ho. These people do not even know someone somewhere has saved their pictures from birth up till the one that was uploaded minutes ago. Lol😂 I'm reminded of a video I saw on someone's status some months ago where a cleric was saying the reason some ladies are stillsingle is because, they've already fallen in love with people they can't come across in their entire life.  We've quickly gone past days of Woman Crush Wednesday👩, Woman Crush Ever😍, Man Crush Monday👨 and Man Crush Ever😍 where you'll see WhatsApp status full of WCE numbering 1 to 10 or so. I actually tagged this 'celebrity crush' but some wou