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Our over-hyped 2020 is almost gone, in about 72 hours, we would all be updating #StraightOutta2020. With all the odds that came with 2020,  With the way things were affected, With complaints here and there, Did the year really feel your presence? I know we all had excuses. '' I wish I could have done this and that but covid19 spoilt my plans...'' and so on. For you to still be alive reading this, it can only be God and I felicitate with you.  If you were to do a review of your life this year, did you merely exist or live? Well, these two English words are used wrongly by some people, they believe they are living when in the real sense they are existing. Okay, wait, apart from people recognising you by name, complexion, voice or appearance, do they know you by good works? Existence is a state of being, to be alive, to fill a vacuum, to occupy a space. Living is different, it's being alive to have an impact.  This year, we know you're online, you view status, you

Insecurity!!! This alone ruins a marriage of so many years, especially when the ego of the man is being tampered with. Insecurity comes in different forms. In a relationship, a man may feel insecure when his wife earns more than he. A woman may feel insecure when her husband is quite attractive or maybe used to be a casanova before they got married. And generally, insecurity between a husband and a wife could be as a result of growing up and hurtful past relationship experiences. In friendship, a friend may feel insecure when the other seems to be doing well. An insecure person could be very difficult to deal with. The moment they see you're doing better than they are, that is where problem and enmity sets in. Let me go on, insecure people talk you out of reaching heights because it threatens them. They start thinking by the time you're on a higher level than they, you may decide to leave. When I read ''Reflecns of A Man'' by Amari Soul, I had a clearer understa

 I wonder why people are so used to nailing you to what you were once known for even after knowing you've moved. There's this elderly friend of mine. He was a panelist in a finance workshop. He asked if I could make it to the event that day and I replied in the affirmative. The discussion was really an eye-opener for me and I commended him immediately after the session. Just as I was still standing by him, a man whom he described as one of his friends in the college came over and said ''if it had been someone else talking, I might have agreed, when did you become so serious about money of a thing, you used to be so extravagant at spending.'' My friend didn't take offence at the rude remark, he just smiled at him and said ''thank God you said I used to, not anymore'' The man went away shaking his head in utter disbelief. Well, I entered into his thoughts and I realized he was thinking that someone that had such prodigal nature shouldn't ad

The first time I came across the word ''sapiosexual'' was when I was reading a book about two years ago. You know what it means right? Sapiosexual means to be sexually attracted to intellectual or mental qualities, rather than to the physical body. Most times, we all crosscheck physical attributes before we consider someone's proposal.  We set qualifications within our hearts, most ladies say ''I want a tall handsome man with beards, six packs, dark or chocolate skin'' Some men say '' I want a lady with a  hourglass shape, beautiful, fair skin complexion, nice dentition and a moderate height.'' It's all good. But what happens when you meet someone with the aforementioned attributes, you ignited a conversation and you started hearing ''My names is Cynthia, they calling me CT babies, I enjoying eating spagerri and shicken'' Oh mine!😲 Did you hear that? Well, nobody would love to date a monkey. No matter how little,

About this time last year, I was on a tour to Adó Àwáyè, not really as an intentional tourist but as a reporter. Ever heard of Adó Àwáyè? Well, it would so please my heart to tell you one or two things about this particular place. Adó Àwáyè is a town closest to Iseyin in the Òkè Ògùn area of Oyo state. It homes one of the two suspended lakes in the whole world. The town was founded by Obakoyi of the Oyo empire in 1500 who settled at Adó Àwáyè on his way to Òtà. Obakoye was to be the Alaafin of Òyó but Onigbogi his brother ascended the throne. He angrily left Oyo with one of his father’s crowns. However, he went through plain grounds until he got foot of the Ado Hill, where he saw a smoke. He climbed the mountain and there, he met some escapees from the Dahomey war. Having agreed and discussed with them, they decided to make him King of Ado.  Adúró s'íbí (we stay here) became Adó, Àwáyè (we are safe) to form Ado Awaye. On the Adó Àwáyè hill is found three suspended lakes but the mos

They knew we know the truth but they still tell us the truth we know is a lie. Who are they? Nigerian government apparently. CNN released video of what transpired at the Lekki tollgate on October 20, 2020 and it was denied by our able Minister of Information, Mr Lai. I'll say well done sir! It was denied ahbi, the denial of the masaccre should have followed a video of what they called the truth about the incidence. I was expecting a shocking revelation of protesters at the toll gate who were just singing national anthem and waving the flag all through but I couldn't find it. I was expecting a total denial of DJ switch's Instagram live video that it was probably at a movie location or thereabout. I was expecting the federal government to say those visited at the hospital by the Lagos state governor, Babajide Sanwoolu were victim of landslide and not the Lekki tollgate shootings. Yea, maybe I should add this too. I was also expecting them to say the officers of the Nigerian A

  ''Maybe it would have  been better if students go and learn skills.'' ''The schools should rather be closed for two to five years in order to resuscitate the education sector'' Well, these and many more are the statements that have been pissing me off since the beginning of the dialogue between ASUU and the Federal Government. Gradually, 2020 is almost over and students in Nigeria universities are yet to know their resumption fate. I could remember vividly that the strike was ongoing before the lockdown was declared. It's a pity a course of study with 4 years duration turns out to be 5 or even 6 years. How did we get here? A student would actually be happy when he or she is offered a provisional admission and start calculating how many years to go but like the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria would say ''I was shocked'' the calculated duration gets longer and longer.  Nigeria educational system is actually wrecking every

Will #sex_for_grades scandal ever stop? Are we really going to have repentant lecturers? How best do we handle lecturer-student relationship without obsession? Ok, so I watched CITATION the movie and yea it's absolutely relatable. Note, this isn't a review. To start with, I would like to commend the hardwork and ingenuity of the veteran movie producer Kunle Afolayan.  The characterization is amazing and altogether the production is perfect. With casts like Temi Otedola starring as Moremi Oluwa and Ibukun Awosika who made their applaudable debut appearances, actors like Joke Silver, Gabriel Afolayan, Jimmy Jean-Louis, Adjetey Anang, Sadiq Daba and others on the list too made it a grand success. The African heritage portrayed in the movie include the language, afro wears, artifacts and tourism.  As a lover of language that I am, I was happy to hear fluent Yoruba, English and French language at the same time. I love the exploration within Nigeria, Senegal and Cape Verde. I won'

  I was sitting on the bed in my room staring at the note of the exam paper I have the next day.  Loud thoughts, do we need exams? Are they true test of knowledge? Our answers might contradict but nonetheless, we still need to be tested. Like I was saying o. Well, my room is a typical example of some student's room without a chair and a reading desk. Obviously, when you come visiting, you'll be sitting on my bed if you don't mind. Lol It wasn't a course I really fancied so the note was kinda boring but you know I had to read it anyway. Getting good grades can be sweet o, chai! I was reading a line about a million times, yawning continuously, changing positions and at the end of it, I found myself lying flat. Sleep? Yea, I actually slept off while reading sha.  You obviously can relate right?  Maybe this can somewhat be targeted at students because I'm in that shoes at the moment too. Enjoy my tips😋 When you notice you're about dozing off while reading, walk aro

At a sensitive time such as this, some people are so much concerned with tribal conspiracy theory instead of fighting as Nigerians with one voice. The bad governance we are speaking against today does not only affect the Southerners, it's to every Nigerian home or away. It may not bother you as it does to me how we get to recycle the same people in governance. They come disguised as saviours on a different political platform whereas it's no different from the other and then we approve of them thinking they'll do better. Wow! See them shocking us one by one. Nigeria is sixty years old for crying out loud and yea, we should enjoy good lives as Nigerians. How annoying it is when I meet staunch followers of a particular leader and their level of reasoning still shows how blindfolded they are to see the obvious flaws. Like how can one out of hundred person keep saying that one leader is doing well when it's otherwise? Mehnnnn You mean to say the remaining ninety nine are sen

  Knock knock! May I come in?😂 Gbam, I'm in already. Hmmmmm. The past week has been a battle for me, from malaria to cough to cold to lack of appetite and all. Finally, I came out stronger. Wait, what were you thinking? I caught you, it's not corona virus o. I'm fully convinced that good health is underrated. You move freely, eat anything, sleep for long hours, wear sleeveless cloth and just live at too much of a liberty. Then sickness handicaps one to be so much of a selective eater. Did I even say eat? You may not be able to eat anything at that moment. Temperature gets to a hundred degrees Celsius, then every usual activities become odd. I couldn't eat good food because there was no appetite, all I could honestly take was pap and milk or beverage. Gosh! It wouldn't have been an option if I was fine. So many times, we need to be grateful for blessings money can't buy, good health is one big deal. For days you really want to drip, you could bend to iron your c

  Did I share my police harassment story with you? I guess I didn't  Well, as much as I always try to evade addressing the negative sides in the police force because of the people I have there, I won't hesitate to speak now. I posted something on my WhatsApp status on Sunday when I saw the news that SARS has been dissolved and the caption reads thus ''FG finally shenk SARS, our boyfriends are free now.'' The reaction of people really surprised me when some started questioning me to know whether I'm dating a yahoo boy. Some even went to the extent of accusing me of being a party to fraud. Lol, I was like ''what the feck!'' SARS do not only chase after yahoo boys, they harass you when you look too good to be true.  Okay wait, you saw the comedy skit of a guy who defined SARS? Dread, iPhone, laptop, chains, designer wears et cetera. How many is my body that SARS officer is stopping me? So it happened like this o, I took a bike from Sango to Iwo

Chai. Would you imagine yourself in this kind of situation where you pay a visit to someone's house, you were offered a meal but you declined politely because you didn't want to betray your stomach at that time. The people now responded with ''you don't want to eat because our food is not sweet ahbi.''  You don't even need to imagine that because I'm sure it must have happened to you several times if you're a Nigerian. Honestly speaking, you would want to dissuade them off that thought and you might even find yourself trying to explain the reason why you have declined the offer, maybe to say ''it's not like that ma'am, I'm fasting or I didn't mean to say No to your offer, I just ate a plate of rice on my way here not long ago'' and so on. Watch out! Those people might not know what they've done but that's a straightforward example of what a manipulative person does. You find yourself trying to ''sha

Hiyaaa Happy new week. Guess you're fine right?? If not, I bet you can always talk to me and I'll be sure to give my rapt attention. And yea, where are the icons o? it's still BBN lockdown celebration mode and I'm congratulating Laycon. If only we can share the money together or I should goan do a video claiming I'm pregnant for him nih🤔 since everyone is clinching with him already. Lol. Don't mind me o You will permit me to type this as the spirit leads tonight because I'm stressed already. You know that moment that you're anxiously waiting for school resumption  then school resumes and you become quite reluctant to travel immediately.  So there's this stuff I would like to share with you. Wait o, lemme drink water😂 Just calm down ehn It's not that serious. You know I told you I want us to get personal? I would just like to know what you would have done if you were in my shoes o. As you know, I'm a radio baby. I love doing the talking, whe

 ''Well, I really do not take alcohol but I don't want you to feel bad if I reject your offer, I'll take a bottle.'' ''I don't want the pastor to see me as a lazy youth, I would have to join the Sunday School department then.'' Gosh, like I don't get. Must you be so loyal to every person that you can't say NO to pressure? . . few of the lines above exemplifies how we sometimes react to situations cowardly. How often do you please people? Many times! Yes, many times! Let me make it plain enough: Any moment you bow completely to someone else's opinion or suggestion about you without questioning, you've fallen inside the people-pleaser trap. I must confess to you that I was a victim of this for quite a few number of years even though I pretend to be rebellious, I accept people's opinion of me hook, line and sinker. Those times ehn, when I see my friends or people I know going astray, I couldn't bring myself to correct the

On this day years back, someone collected the fine wrist watch he bought for me because I refused to kiss him at the bus stop. You think it's no big deal? well, it is to me. I guess he would probably be laughing at himself now if he comes across this. God knows as naive I was then, I wouldn't just do what I was told without knowing why. Like you don't get? Like why should I kiss you in public? Is it that you've struck a deal with someone watching telling the person I would probably succumb to doing that? Even if you had wanted that, why was it not indoor? Shey we are in America nih? Kiss o not even a peck or a hug? Well, I won't be particular about the kiss but I'm seriously concerned about removing the wrist watch that was gifted to me already. Gosh, I don't know if anyone enjoyed using 2go like I did because I met a quite number of people. Some, we are still cool, some have gone with the tides of life. Lol So, I met this guy in one of the 2go rooms and we

From every sleep that I'm privileged to wake up from, I've always being optimistic and look forward to seeing this distress to have disappeared. Expectations every morning, hunger and thirst for miracles. Quick desperation for intervention and millions of ways to see if there are any short cuts to achieve desired results of GOOD LIFE. This is obviously not the Nigeria of my dream if you would ask me. Anticipation for a better tomorrow has started before I was born and it's almost a mantra that I perceive would be sung by the forthcoming generation. Policies made by government at all levels are loosing their masses-centered relevance and they are just being made anyways. The stamp duty was recently implemented followed by a new tarrif on electricity and now hike in fuel price. All these however seem to be felt more by the average Nigerians. Yes, You and Me. I want to believe the fuel price hike is a prank that would be cautioned any moment soon. Our leaders are full of hypoc

The countdown has just begun. This is the only time we seem to be truly awakened that the days of the year doesn't stop counting. August folds up to usher in the Ember months. You hear people say ''oga o, this year is almost gone sha'' as if the year wasn't going before now. Doubled profit making is the goal for the latter part of the year as this.  (Singing) Ember ko ma ko wa l'ebi lo Ember ko ma ko wa n'ile lo Osu ''BER BER BER'' la de Baba l'oke so wa ninu ibanuje Ember ko ma ko wa n'ile lo The lines above simply translate ''God keep our homes and extended families safe during the Ember months.'' I can't say specifically who sang that song but It's been popular ever since I was young especially at this time of the year. Very soon, everyone will start singing this Good Women song too: ''Odun n lo s'opin o baba rere (the year is going to an end good Father) F'iso re so wa o t'omo t'

Delete that carnal thought of yours o, nothing happened last time and I still had my cloth on. It was a whole week of fun and adventure. We toured the whole of Abuja, it was only Aso Rock we didn't enter😂. We had dinner on Friday with two of his closest friends and I felt at home with the way he had introduced me and respected me. Just in that week, I knew I almost added 10 pounds because I was spoilt. Kilishi was always available to eat too. The Saturday night which was my last  night, we couldn't resist the urge and so it happened. Maybe cos of the sports I do, my hymen had been broken so, no blood came out but he obviously knew it was my first time. ''Tolu, I'm so sorry this happened. You see I never intended it. I'm sorry I made you break your NSBM (No Sex Before Marriage) resolution.'' I just kept staring into the space but I realized there was no sense of guilt in me. Maybe because he was someone I so much love and cherish. I told him there was no

As we drove, I noticed the FCT isn't as clumsy as Lagos is. Everywhere looked so good enough to be called Abuja. Sitting in the car, I remembered a post I had read on Facebook about Abuja guys who only have cars but no shelter. The post goes on to say these guys sleep most times in their cars and then cook up sugarcoated stories for the well-to-do ladies they meet so they can house them for a week or more. Then if their excuse doesn't add up to the lady again, they move out in search of another prey too. I saw fine cars drove by with fine guys or rather men behind the wheel and I was like ''na dem o''😂 I wasn't looking at Alfred, I was just so fascinated about the urban area. I was feeding my eyes really seriously. He was playing a foreign song but on a very low volume, I didn't even know if it was Drake or Justin Beiber. Wetin concern local pikin? Me I was just vibing to the rhythm. I'm not a fan of all these country music jere, I just like the one

 Journey to Abuja on air made me forget everything at school and at home. Remember I didn't inform anyone. I got everything I needed to fly on my mail and I did as required. He bought a business class return ticket for me and the date showed I was to spend a whole week. OMG! You can't even understand how ecstatic I was, travelling to meet my boyfriend by air, to a place I've always been fascinated by plus the huge amount of money he sent so I could fix one or two things for my journey. I didn't want to look like a poverty stricken lady, so I had to fix my hair before I would travel that Monday morning. I know I was small but I had to just look mature to the people he might be introducing me to as his girlfriend because I obviously don't want them to categorise me as one of these underage girls. Never! Just before I travelled, I meticulously and painstakingly picked the cloth I would wear there. All the stuffs in my wardrobe are too ''studentish'' and