On this day years back, someone collected the fine wrist watch he bought for me because I refused to kiss him at the bus stop. You think it's no big deal? well, it is to me.
I guess he would probably be laughing at himself now if he comes across this.
God knows as naive I was then, I wouldn't just do what I was told without knowing why.
Like you don't get? Like why should I kiss you in public? Is it that you've struck a deal with someone watching telling the person I would probably succumb to doing that? Even if you had wanted that, why was it not indoor? Shey we are in America nih? Kiss o not even a peck or a hug?
Well, I won't be particular about the kiss but I'm seriously concerned about removing the wrist watch that was gifted to me already.
Gosh, I don't know if anyone enjoyed using 2go like I did because I met a quite number of people. Some, we are still cool, some have gone with the tides of life. Lol
So, I met this guy in one of the 2go rooms and we got so excited about each other.
We had endless conversations as there was always something to talk about.
We exchanged contacts from there and we place calls through almost every 3 to 4hours.
Confession time: When I learnt he was a youth corps member, I lied to feel among too. I said I was in Unilorin. Haahaaahaaaahaaaa😂
Serving in Niger State, he would always suggest he travels down to see me in school but the smart me would always come up with one excuse or the other. Aunty wisdom no go kill me
(He later found out though and yea we still flow thereafter)
Fast forward to when he came to Ibadan sha, we met cos he invited me to his place and I went. We just had random conversations and I kind of liked him even more with the way he talked like a big bro I never had. I felt safe as there was no nasty move whatsoever.
That day went and there was another date again at his place. He performed a solo for me with his guitar, we talked about how he would proceed for his M.Sc after service year and a review of the movie we saw. That day he gifted me the gold wristwatch as one of his alawee dividends and I so much loved it.
Then the last time was when we both left the house, on our way to the nearest bus stop, he said repeatedly that I must kiss him when we get to the bus stop. I didn't pay much attention to him cos it seemed like a joke. He said it again and I just smiled and said okay to make him keep quiet.
Voooooom! We got to the bus stop, he held my hands and kind of commanded me to. I was becoming infuriated like ''what the heck.'' I pulled away then he came near me to loose my wristwatch. Lmao😂
Like seriously???
I don't want to tell you how the departure was that day though we still talked several times after the scenario.
I wonder want he would do with the watch since then because it's my perfect tiny wrist size and it's feminine.
Hmmmmmmmmm
Well, most of us might not have the kiss-wrist watch case but we tend to attach a condition to helping others. Most times, we make it a tit for tat situation.
Like kiss me in public and you'll go with the wrist watch and vice versa. Or like the story in the scripture about Jacob and Esau: give me your birthright and I'll give you my porridge.
Maybe the mentality is from the cliché ''You use what you have to get what you want'' or whatever. If you give me this first, then I'll give you that. It's a NO NO deal❌ The satisfaction derived from these conditioned situations is purely temporal.
We really need to learn how to give stuffs completely. If you can't give it completely, don't even bother to give it at all.
If you're in a position to employ a job seeker, don't attach kind or cash conditions to the employment offer. Let it be strictly based on merit.
Lecturers to students ...
And many other conditional offers we all know.
I hope this helps us to stop being conditional in all we do.
Happy new week FAM
Virtual hugs🤗🤗🤗
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