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Celebrating fathers, OUR HEROES💃💃💃💃 The just celebrated Father's day has actually propelled me to write this to you all. Filling two different gaps as a child and a parent at the same time. How we as children look up to our  parents and how as a parent we ought to do to our children. Is someone wondering what is this girl saying? Well, I don't know too but maybe you just need to read a little further. Growing up, I hear people say fathers are mirrors while mothers are golds. I'm sure you must have heard that said in the Yoruba language zillion times ''iya ni wura, baba ni digi.'' I ponder on this and wonder why fathers are not referred to as one of the natural resources instead another thing entirely that can be so cheap, A mirror? Maybe I should chip this in here too that there seems to be unfairness in the days set aside like you men complain of in that mothers day is celebrated almost everyday (pardon my exaggeration) whereas Fathers day is just once

What happens when a lot of people are pointing out the right way you ought to live for you? The moment someone says "it's done this way" and another tell you "that way would be better" All you put yourself to is simply FRUSTRATION. Generally speaking, we love acceptance as human beings. We want to do things that would make people proudly have our backs and say yes, that's my friend or that's my child. The moment we crave for people's acceptance, we tend to be vulnerable by giving ears to what people around us say so that when they tell us they don't like what we've done, we just at times gullibly adjust that thing even when we knew we had done nothing wrong. This act is referred to as PEOPLE- PLEASING.  It happens when we are so conscious of what people might say about us so as not to break ties with friends or loved ones.  When people around us notice this vulnerability, they would be delighted in tossing us to and fro like they do to coins

I could vividly remember that during my childhood days, I could move about freely with pants, stay at home alone with my cousins, play about with other boys and girls in the neighborhood, allow elderly ones to carry me and so on but such acts now would be considered a dangerous play where Yoruba would say "o n fi ina sori orule sun." Children, both boys and girls are no longer allowed to enjoy their innocent childhood, they take caution of whoever adult they come across with probing reactions and unanswered questions within them "which kind of person is this?" I could also remember those days when parents would leave their children in the hands of neighbours pending their arrival and they wouldn't have to think twice about it. The most disheartening thing is when the most trusted person go on to abuse the child and threatening such a child never to speak up.  What a world we live in! Has the beast version of these perpetrators recently been upgraded? That you fi

Yaaaaay💃I'm so excited to be writing this to you again. Read through please 🙏🙏 Ever heard of the word COMPLACENCY? Well, it's simply of feeling of satisfaction with yourself or with a situation, so that you do not think any change is necessary according to the Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary, 8th edition. This feeling is so common that some people do not think it's wrong to live life with such a mentality. It might not be our wish at first but when people around start hailing us, the feelings set in and we convince ourselves that "for these people to have noticed what I've done, I think I've reached the climax" That's a red flag because being better is a journey not a destination. Maybe I should explain better, it's when you feel so relaxed and contented about yourself or what you've achieved and just feel "that's enough" even when there is a room to do better. People tend to hide under the saying "do yo

Many a time we hear words like "that was so bad of you" "you did rubbish" "I was expecting you to have done something better, that was whack" "you look so ugly" blablabla and we might just feel bad about ourselves or what we've done and we get discouraged to even try further. Smiles, I really do not want to sound like a motivational speaker, obviously, I'm not. Just felt an urge to share this with you. The greatest criticism comes from intimate or I rather put close people because they are the ones that could talk straight to our faces. At times, they take us for granted and just hurl unpleasant words as they like not minding the effects. Criticisms are good as they help us to guage our stand, I mean positive ones. They are alot of people that are already bitter thereby looking for whom to transfer their aggressions to. So, when you ask them how your last presentation was or how your make up looks, they would be quick to point

Hello love❤ How do you do? I guess you've been doing some sorts of rethinking this period? Though it's one thing to think about ways to solve problems at this time, it's another thing to activate it. I facilitated a session on a whatsapp group about a week and some days ago where I spoke on how we can maximise to internet during this time of the COVID-19 pandemic. It was quite burdensome to realize some people youths to be precise, only jump from Whatsapp to Facebook to Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, tiktok and YouTube. These media are good enough for us but when we are so addicted it, we'll realize we have little or no time left to do important things. Getting employed after the pandemic could be a little bit tough except you've possessed key digital skills in this century. For those that are employed already, it might require more efforts to be up and stay up. The rate at which the cases increase indicates there is likely going to be lockdown or sho

Hiyaaaa 👋 Happy lockdown to you but incase you aren't really lockdown as you ought to be, happy unlockdown then😀. I don't know if you are as baffled as I am right now about the spread of COVID-19. Well, the amount of fear still can't be compared to the amount of hope I have for survival. I calm myself with "Fear not, We'll be fine." Please do likewise 😁 I won't lie to you the number of confirmed cases in Nigeria has risen far beyond the updates released. Did you ask me how? OK, there are some set of people who have been noticing the symptoms or they might even be asymptomatic but deep down they know they are in for it, due to the society we are in where these people know they can be quickly stigmatized, they tend to keep mute and just act as if nothing is wrong with them thereby causing harm to whosoever come in contact with them. You can agree with me now right? How I wish all hands could be on deck against the spread of this COVID-19. Can w