Parenting 👪

It's been some few weeks that I dropped by and alot has happened outside here. From abusive marriage to Chrisland girl trend and now bestiality (blog for another day) The latter seems to be the most disheartening of all the stories. Like WTF!

Maybe we would just have to pick one after the other but lemme first ask how do you do? And yeah, April is almost gone too in 2022, how have you been holding up ? especially if you're reading this from Nigeria (Top to botum) Lol 

Nawa o! So many things have spoilt in this generation already and we don't even know how perverse the generation coming after this would look like. Parenting seems to beh the cheapest business to run now as there's little to no supervision required.

I think I updated on my WhatsApp status sometimes ago how a mother approached me that her daughter got 126 in UTME and she would like me to use everything in my capacity to see that she's admitted into my school even after telling her the cut-off is 150.

I began to wonder how tough it was during my admission seeking days that one automatically looses hope when he or she gets below 180. No parent will start pushing you desperately like that cos you absolutely just wasted their money for that year except you would be asked to go for a Pre-degree or preliminary program.

Parents, all in the name of being good, now tolerate all forms of things from their toddlers to the teenagers. It's not a bad idea to be a permissive parent, but it's bad if we become too reckless about it. We know you want to afford your children the luxury lifestyle that you were not brought up with and that's fine, but biko let there be decency.

We are free to say that bad parenting didn't just start. Yea, it has been since the analog age and those times when they were using Nokia3310 but it just became more pronounced in this digital age where parents go on social media themselves to post the naked birthday shoot they had for their 3year old daughter or how the child was busy drinking alcohol and dancing seductively.

Have some parents failed at it? In the affirmative especially these young couples forming 'woke' and 'jasi'. Maybe because they were also not prepared for this journey after all cos people who are intentional about marriage and parenthood will never just sit back and see their children's future crumbling.

Just before you start saying "Lollycious, but you are not married na, you don't know what parenting is about blablabla" Mehn, I'm not but I've understood what it is like growing up under my parent's guidance, from reading the scripture that was written by the inspiration of the holy ghost, I've garnered knowledge from books, movies and people's experiences that they were willing to share with me.

Well, I've not come here to rant about the choice of some parents especially mothers to have naked shoots with their babies, wear heavy make-up and long hairstyles for toddlers, allow them drink alcohol, allow them party and twerk at young age and more. Lol, maybe I'm ranting sha but it's not that loud sha.

Take for instance the pride we have saying "My mother's prayers keep me going" Can our children say that about us? We are all involved so I don't want to point fingers. Do we even pray, do right or there's negligence on our path and we just want to flex and 'eat the lives of our head'? 

May I just beg us whether as parents or parents-to-be that inculcating some little bits of morals and virtues in our children is only possible when we are value-driven individuals ourselves. Just like they say "You possibly can't give what you don't have"

I'm making this plea because your children may end up growing in the same environment with mine and if we all don't curb this nonchalant attitude towards parenting, the society will become so toxic for our children to thrive.

Let's all strive to become better and virtuous people so we can raise morally upright kids that would make us proud. Before we blame the schools, peers or religious institution, I'm sure we know the family is the first agent of socialisation. I hope y'all find this worth reading?

Virtual hugs fam🤗🤗🤗