Learn to empathize👥

 

Just as a singer sang ''if you know wetin I know, you for no reason me...''

Most times, people do not learn to empathize which makes them easy to judge you. They are always ready to pounce on you when you're found guilty of a wrongdoing.

Empathy means to identify with or understanding of the thoughts, feelings, or emotional state of another person. It is the capacity to understand another person's point of view.

It's fine to be so positively minded about our expectations but this could blind us to believing the table turns. Note: this 'table turning' of a thing doesn't necessarily means for bad, No No.

Lack of empathy causes us to judge other people inappropriately. We are too quick to say 'God catch him' even when we don't understand what has led to that.

Until we change our paradigm or the view in which we use to see others, we would continue to hurt others by our excess subjective comments.

Right now, your paradigm of anyone that reruns or gets a low mark in high institution is unseriousness. Ehhhhhhh! Don't even think about that o. When you empathize, you would be able to think of what else could have caused that? Was the person's script not found? Was the person under marked? Was the person a victim of lecturer abuse? Was it as a result of higher forces that wanted to just ruin such person? Could it be that he or she never even prepared? 

Aunty, Bros, see ehn, you need a paradigm shift. What you think about the person may not be true unless you empathize and look from the angle they are standing too.

Empathy causes us to put ourselves in other people's shoes. It's not nice to always want to condemn everyone immediately, it would warrant us to reason at times.

Although, there are times that people do some wrong acts intentionally but we never can tell.

Even the scripture asked us not to judge!

When we keep judging people, it affects our interpersonal relationship and at the long run our society at large. People go about with hurt and won't hesitate to spread negativity. One of the reasons the world is becoming more perverse.

We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. We are quick to assume that for a guy to be living a luxurious lifestyle, he must have been into fraud. So, when he becomes sick or experiencing a setback, we would link it to nemesis. Stopeeet na.

Instead of judging from afar if you don't understand, why don't you just walk up to the person and get clarifications before you get yourself mentally unhealthy.

You wouldn't like it when someone doesn't know what you have gone through and then comes up with a wrong conclusion about you. 

Like what I had read in the book 'Seven Habits of highly effective people by Stephen Covey' He wrote about his own experience, The author was already seated in the bus when a man and his two kids entered, he said the kids were yelling and throwing things but the father seemed insensitive. To him, he must have judged the father for being a bad father that didn't train his children but because he couldn't keep the annoyance to himself, he walked up to the father and told him to control the kids.

Unfortunately, the man lifted his gaze and told him they were just coming back from the hospital where the children had lost their mother. 

Could you imagine the kind of shock the author would have experienced at that time? He was quick to think negative of the children's behaviour and bad parenting but when he heard what happened, he knew the act was not intentional.

Empathize first, I mean try to imagine yourself as the person you're trying to judge. Shift your paradigm and don't react only on the way you see things. Perceptions might be wrong at times.

If we're standing at opposite directions where you see 6 as 9, I shouldn't be impolite to talk down at you. We should understand that others have reasons for making a choice.

I'll advice you to wear my shoes too so you'll know why I either love wearing it or complain about it.

Shift your paradigm! 

Empathize!

Virtual hugs FAM 🤗🤗🤗