Smart way to handle criticism😎

Many a time we hear words like "that was so bad of you" "you did rubbish" "I was expecting you to have done something better, that was whack" "you look so ugly" blablabla and we might just feel bad about ourselves or what we've done and we get discouraged to even try further.

Smiles, I really do not want to sound like a motivational speaker, obviously, I'm not. Just felt an urge to share this with you.

The greatest criticism comes from intimate or I rather put close people because they are the ones that could talk straight to our faces. At times, they take us for granted and just hurl unpleasant words as they like not minding the effects.

Criticisms are good as they help us to guage our stand, I mean positive ones.

They are alot of people that are already bitter thereby looking for whom to transfer their aggressions to. So, when you ask them how your last presentation was or how your make up looks, they would be quick to point out the flaws, saying this and that without noticing anything good about what you've done or how you look. These people can be so dangerous.

When these kind of people find their ways into your 'psychological self', you'll get your self esteem affected.

So how do you handle such a negative criticism? It's simple. Before the person rants further and further, just thank the person politely for whatever observation and walk away. Don't allow the word to pierce you through, please🙏

When you get to your closet, you can ponder on those words and ask few more people about that particular thing to know if their observation is the same, if so, you need to work on yourself.

Let me share my story with you. I know I'm not the best cook on planet earth  but I'm not a bad one either. Because I rarely cook doesn't mean I can't😋. I have a friend who feels she's an awesome cook and most times, she tells everyone I'm bad at cooking during the course of similar conversations, it's openly o. People laughed at me one particular day, and I smiled too so they won't notice I was pained. So there was a day that these set of people who had the impression that I can't cook decided to come visit, I didn't know where that 'alase' (party chef) spirit came from. I prepared the food in their presence and the jollof rice was so delicious that the people were convinced she must have been saying the opposite of what she meant. And I must say, I felt like a super star with the accolades I received.

Imagine, what would have happened if I had shouted at her that day warning her to keep shut or if I had cried?

So, whether you were or will be(its unavoidable as long as you're living and making progress) criticized negatively in a public or privately, do well to stay composed and polite, keep your head straight and give a charming smile. But make sure you are not the bad they said you are. I dont know if you understand.
Remember, you owe no one any explanation.

Just be better today than you were yesterday.

I would like to talk on complacency one of these days. Watch this space.

Virtual hugs 🤗